Few days back, the announcement of my Semester-3 Results made me Complacent.It went pretty well for me.But for some, it brought disappointment. Some of my friends were greatly disappointed even after scoring well enough like an 80+ score(Hmmm..Not getting a backlog…passing with confederated score of 80..So very whelming for two meager students, Isn’t it!!).While some of them, surprisingly, were happy scoring a score that didn’t seem so great to hear.But this left me with commotion and concern. Who were the happier ones?? -the former or the latter?–who were the contented ones? Pondering and Envisaging for long, I reasoned all this to the notion of ‘Comparing Yourself With Others’–COMPARISON--the word,this time,didn’t sound much genial to me.The ones who scored good enough were disappointed by the fact that they were still behind some others who scored better than them. This reminds me of a very popular line of the movie ‘3-Idiots’–‘DOST JAB FAIL HOTA HAI TO DUKH HOTA HAI PAR DOST JAB FIRST AATA HAI TO ZYADA DUKH HOTA HAI..’. We all laugh everytime we hear or read this dialogue, Isn’t it? But peculiarly, It didn’t gladden me much this time. May be because, this concept of ‘Comparison’ was hovering over my mind from the past hour and I could sense a bit of the same from this.
Isn’t the present scenario like–‘ I Am Happy because I’ve got much of it but I am sadder because others have got more than me’??This not-so-currently-pleasant-seeming word ‘Comparison‘ seems to have deeper roots.I remember, during my childhood, my mother made me drink milk saying…’Drink it dear, nhi toh Sia( our neighbour’s daughter) tumse jaldi badi ho jayegi’.(All mothers do the same). That sounds stupid. But since this notion, presently, has prevaded over my mind,this immaturely-silly point,too,did impinge me. This is where the consideration of this idea is rooted to. We’ve been taught to live with this as if we were born to be stronger,richer,better than our neighbours’s kids,our relatives, friends etc etc.
I don’t say seeing oneself in the first place and working for it is bad. However, we need to understand the difference between Comparison and Competition(a healthy one) as they go hand in hand. It serves a good purpose until it doesn’t start acting as a demotivator or disheartens oneself completely.But,Now, We all Have become so very habitude to this that we everytime end up segregating ourselves or others.
Teens, These days rebel to get latest smart phones, tablets, ipads etc etc not because they are in need of that but because their friends have got one or the other latEst gadget.Its like..’ You want it not because You need it..You want it because Your friend has it’..likely..’You are not much happy that u scored good but You are sadder because someone else scored more than You’..’You are not satisfied because You are good but You are depressed beacuse he or she is better than u’..I don’t really understand this concept..WHY COMPARE??..Were We born to run like freaks in this never-so-ending-frantic race of leading others ??? Isn’t that like disobliging Your own self..Your individuality..Your uniqueness..??
You need to realize–You Are Here For A Purpose…A Purpose That Is Unique In Itself…A Purpose That Must Be SELF-INSPIRED...A Purpose That Defines You!! Each one of us possesses a character that is built up of Good and Bad points, Strengths and Weaknesses.You need not be Ashamed of that.Stay contented with what you have and Work for your own betterment rather than to compete or lead.Don’t base Your Assumptions,Your Opinions About Your Own Self Upon This Immature Notion Of Comparison.IDENTIFY THE REAL YOU THAT LIES SOMEWHERE DEEP INSIDE! Work towards your Goal..The Self Stimulated Goal!!
At last, Remember, ‘YOU ARE IN COMPETITON WITH NO ONE.YOU NEED NOT PLAY THE GAME OF BEING BETTER THAN ANYONE.YOU MUST SIMPLY TRY TO BE A SMALL IMPROVEMENT OF THE PERSON YOU WERE YESTERDAY,SO YOU CAN BE A BETTER PERSON TOMORROW!!’